Well, it’s that time of year people! You know, when every parent gushes at the thought of free babysitting for weeks on end. Mothers everywhere are asking themselves, “how many VBS’ are held within a 5 mile radius? How quickly can I transport the kids from First Baptist in the AM to First Methodist for the PM program? Just think of the groceries i won’t have to buy!”
Any single worth their eHarmony membership at one point or another has come into contact with their very own Chuck Woolery. If you don't get this reference then you haven't paid your dues in singledom for very long. The conversation usually starts normal enough...
You’re at dinner with some Christian friends, and “the ratio” comes up. Immediately, you probably know what I’m talking about. It’s a big problem in the Christian singles community. We’re talking about the ratio of girls to guys. There seems to be a ton of girls available with few guys to go around. It really doesn't matter what church you go to, unless its Mars Hill in Seattle. There are just a lot more women in church than men. There are a ton of godly, successful, high character women who are ready to be married, but don't seem to see any qualified candidates around.
Guys, because you need all the help you can get in the dating arena, I have decided to share some insider information with you.
Small Group is cheaper than therapy. For many of us busy girls, small group is the only opportunity that we have during the week to vent our frustrations, brag, I mean, share in the joy of our accomplishments or seek advice from Godly women. The women in our small group are our confidants. Our cheerleaders. Our prayer warriors. Our wolf pack.
Having been involved in two big churches since graduating from college, and through conversations with friends, I've concluded that eating out in humongous groups is a trend among Christians all around the country. Let me explain this craziness. It's not a necessarily a bad thing, it's just hilarious!
This may be a painful post for some of you to read. I pray that you will receive it, think about it, and possibly seek to allow the Spirit to change your heart. I have to confess, I’m afraid there’s something going on in the dating world that is causing destruction. Something that is keeping people from living healthy, God-honoring lives. Something that seeks to compete for your full affection. I have been guilty of it. Maybe some of you are guilty of it too.
First dates. Don't you just love them? The sweaty palms, nervous laughter, and countless voices in your head telling you when to end dinner all add up to a memorable experience for us all. During your "debriefing session" on the way home you ask yourself, "did it go well?, "did they notice the food hanging from my face?" "did they seem interested?", and "will they call me?". Another question we ask, and give a lot of weight to, is "did I feel any sparks fly?" While we appreciate what Taylor Swift has to say about sparks flying, this is a gross misperception. Taylor says,
I can clearly remember the joy that filled my 11-year-old heart when I would check the mailbox and receive my subscription of "Tiger Beat" magazine. The magazine stayed in tact just long enough for me to get to the kitchen table, find some scissors and cut out dozens of pictures of Jonathon Taylor Thomas, Leonardo DiCaprio and Devin Sawa. I would then cover the back of each of picture with Elmer's glue and stick them to a poster board already covered with dozens of other teen heart-throbs from previous month's issues. It was a glorious collage of hotness.
A few weeks ago we gave you the First Church Date Survival Guide. Now that you're going steady, changed your FB status, and racked up some dinner money at Chili's, we now give you the best advice for bringing your new love to church. All Christians know it's a major step in your relationship when you bring the new boyfriend / girlfriend to church. That first Sunday is akin to your relationship Super Bowl.
In most churches there’s typically an area “unofficially” designated for singles. At my home church in the Atlanta area, we typically sit on the right side of the auditorium, near the back. This particular area is nice because most of the time there are still plenty of open seats for those arriving fashionably late.
Navigating the singles section can be difficult, but with practice, you'll be just fine!
Ok guys and gals, here are the lines that have caused us pain for years and sent us spiraling into our small group prayer time. You know the deal. You are interested in a guy/girl. You ask them out a few times. Then they give you “the line.” Here are our favorites:
The hair was gelled. The attitude was too cool for school. The ZIP code was 90210.
My affinity for the bad boy began years ago with Dylan McKay (Luke Perry). He was Attractive, exciting and dangerous... And I decided all those years ago that when I was old enough to have a boyfriend, he would be a bad boy, too. Years later, I'm still searching for my Dylan McKay - A Jesus-loving, church-going version of Dylan McKay.
What do you do when the fairy-tale romance comes crashing down? What if both of you attend the same church?
This is where it's especially beneficial to attend a mega-church. It will be less painful if there are 5,000 other people who have no idea you've changed your relationship status. By the way, it's always better to break up on Monday. This is where the corporate world gets it right. You always fire someone on a Monday. So, breaking up on a Monday gives you an entire week to plan your next worship experience. So, how do you do it? That's easy. You switch services.
You've been texting, tweeting, and Facebook messaging one another for weeks. The time has finally come for (GASP) making conversation in person, or what the old folks like to call a "first date". And one of our favorite places to hang out on a first date is church. This first time face-to-face interaction can be tricky to navigate and many times is a "make it or break it" situation. To take some off that pressure off of you, I've put together this handy First Church Date Survival Guide.
“Life without Parole” - Feel like you’ll never get out of the singles ministry?
Stuck. You feel like going to the next singles event is a little like headed down to your daily dose of low sugar, low salt, reheated meat and veggies plate at the state penitentiary. No worries, I have not actually eaten a meal at a prison.
“How Christians Date” - how they would, could, should, and everything in between Why create a Christian dating site? Because we’ve decided that there are enough people out there who could benefit from a space where they can read, discuss, and work towards better dating lives. We are convinced that hundreds, maybe thousands of good, solid Christian adults are frustrated with dating. Some are even giving up the whole idea. We have had numerous conversations about great people we know who tell us horror stories and we comment, “I don’t understand.